Dear Janice,

I visited a psychic, and she told me lots of personal stuff which could only relate to me.

She also said she connected with my nephew who tragically committed suicide some years back and gave me messages to pass on to his dad (my brother).

In the past when the subject has come up, my brother always said he does not believe in psychics or fortune tellers, and that anyone who does, is an idiot.

But the messages were very clear and specific, and I believe they would give my brother great comfort, but because of his views, I really don’t know what to do for the best.

Lesley.

Dear Lesley,

I imagine your brother is just about keeping a sticking plaster on his wounds, even years down the line, and giving him these messages might just rip the plaster off completely and send his healing backwards.

My mantra is “when in doubt, do nothing.” So, do nothing, and say nothing to your brother as it seems to me, he has made his feelings on the subject crystal clear.

I can fully understand you’re urged to bring him comfort by means of these messages, and there is a chance they could, but this tragedy is too emotive and personal to embroil yourself in, even if done with the best of intentions.

If the subject ever arises, you can test the water again, and if he seems open to hearing such information, then tell him what you were told.

However, if his beliefs remain the same, then bear in mind this was your psychic reading, not his, so keep it to yourself and leave well alone.

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Dear Janice,

My Mother’s Day celebrations were completely ruined by my stepdaughter, (which wasn’t the first time).

She is 17, and as her mum was in Tenerife with her latest partner, I invited her to join me, my kids, and her dad for lunch, but all she did was complain, wind up the staff, and play games on her mobile.

I’ve decided I don’t want her in our company again, but how do I tell my husband?

Jen.

 

Dear Jen,

Rather than ostracising this young woman, you should be supporting her.

Her parents are in new relationships, which means she has new relationships and rules to contend with, and where does she fit in?

She was no doubt upset that her mum was sunning herself abroad on Mother’s Day, while she spent time with you. Kind as you offer was, you’re not her mum.

Almost every teenager’s nose is constantly stuck in their mobile, so give her a break.

I’m not asking you to accept bad behaviour, but she is likely to be resentful, angry, lost, and thrust into a life she didn’t want or ask for.

Chat to her and tell her you want her to be part of your family, and ensure she spends lots of time with her dad.

She will evolve at some point.